Can You Handle A Long-Distance Relationship? Fil-Am Marriage

by Bob

Since I started Love Beyond The Sea I haven’t focused much on aspects pertaining to a long distance relationship (LDR) and in the case with the Philippines that is a very long distance relationship (VLDR).

Unless your relationship with a Filipina starts in the Philippines and continues there, there are things that standout about an LDR that you should know about to prepare yourself for this kind of relationship, and I do think that is a good idea. Some of my subscribers are in the early stages of such a relationship, some have become engaged, some are waiting out the visa period and others are happily married to a Filipina, and probably glad those LDR days are over! Personally, when I was willing to embark on a LDR in March of 2015, I had no idea what I was doing, or what the challenges might be.

I just wanted a good wife, and after many years unsuccessfully looking for one in America, I was in a position to stretch myself, go out of my comfort zone, and look to the Philippines. The reason I didn’t do it earlier was I just assumed I could find someone here. Then my twenties turned into my thirties, my thirties turned into my forties, my forties became my fifties and at 53 I was about ready to give it all up and resign myself to being single, I mean alone, for the rest of my life. I am going to go over information I got from three different websites that I will link in the description box.

I will infuse my own experiences into it, and I might not even agree with their points, but if so, will do so respectfully. I encourage you to look at those articles if you are on the cusp of setting sail for the Philippines, or any other country on a LDR. The more you learn about each other and the more time you spend together, you will either grow closer together or realize you are not meant for each other, and there is nothing wrong with that. More and more people are doing long distance relationships.

It isn’t taboo anymore. I did it myself. We were just as much developing a shared identity as anyone else, it just had to be without being together in person. We made the best of it that we could, and are now happily married coming up on four years and wanting to retire in the Philippines.

I can’t imagine life without my Aiza.