Questions To Ask Before You Marry

General Questions

  1. How many kids do you want?

  2. What if I was unable to have children?

  3. What values do you want to instill in your children?

  4. How do you want to discipline your kids?

  5. How comfortable are you around children?

  6. Would you be willing to adopt if we couldn't have kids?

  7. Would you want someone to stay home with the kids or use day care?

  8. How will we handle parental decisions?

  9. Do you enjoy travelling?

  10. How often would you like to travel?

  11. Where would you like to travel?

  12. How important is spending time alone to you?

  13. How important is spending time with friends to you?

  14. What would be the perfect weekday evening to you?


Dealing With Conflict

  1. Would you be willing to go to marriage counselling if we were having marital problems?

  2. If there is a disagreement between me and your family, whose side do you choose?

  3. How do you handle disagreements?

  4. Would you ever consider divorce?



Moral, Political, Religious, Family Values and Beliefs

  1. What are your religious views on marriage?

  2. What's more important, work or family?

  3. What are your political views?

  4. What are your views on birth control?

  5. Would you rather be rich and miserable or poor and happy?

  6. Who will make the biggest decisions of the household?

  7. Would you follow the advice of your family before your spouse?

  8. What do you believe the role of a wife is?

  9. Who should do household chores?

  10. What do you believe the role of a husband is?

  11. How often should we be intimate?


Handling Finances

  1. How do you feel about debt?

  2. Would you share all money with your spouse or split the money into different accounts?

  3. What are your views on saving money?

  4. What are your views on spending money?

  5. Would you be willing to get a second job if we had financial problems?

  6. Do you have any debt?

  7. What if a family member wants to borrow a large sum of money?

  8. Who will take care of the financial matters of the household?


Extended Family

  1. How often would you want to visit your family?

  2. Do you have a family history of diseases or genetic abnormalities?

  3. What if one of your family members said he disliked me?

Medical

  1. What is your medical family history?



Relationship & Marriage Expectations

  1. What are your career aspirations?

  2. What do you think is the best way to keep the love alive in a marriage?

  3. What is the best thing about marriage?

  4. What is the worst thing about marriage?

  5. What is your idea of the best weekend?

  6. How important are wedding anniversaries to you?

  7. What type of house do you want to live in?

  8. What is your biggest fear about marriage?

  9. What excites you about getting married?

  10. What do wedding rings mean to you?

  11. Are you afraid to talk to me about anything?

  12. What do you think would improve our relationship?

  13. What kind of compliments do you like to hear?

  14. Are you introverted or extroverted?

  15. Are you a “neat freak” or a “messy”?

  16. Are you a planner or spontaneous?