What can you do when you love someone so much but he's taken? - Dr. PHILippines

If it is true love then this person would congratulate them on finding someone to be with, and pray for a successful relationship for them. Love always, always is focused on the other person and what is best for them. To say, in effect “I love you, I need you and no one else can have you” is not love at all. It is selfishness and seems to want to override the other person’s free will to have a relationship with someone else. I could answer this question by suggesting ways to break up the relationship they have with the other person such as finding the other person and telling them lies about the person I supposedly love, to trick them into surrendering them back to me, where I think they belong, but that is selfish.

This question-what can you do when you love someone so much but he’s taken?-doesn’t say if the person they love is better off with them or the other person. Maybe you are better than the other person for them, and maybe they are blind to that, but if they are, are they really the person you want to spend the rest of your life with? If they are so smitten with the “wrong” person, what can you do about it? Not much. There was a time in my life when I did tell someone that the person that they had a relationship with was, basically a loser, was taking advantage of them and would not make them a good husband, and I was right. I had a right to state my opinion and try to support it with facts, but she was apparently helpless to change anything. That was her choice. I didn’t feel the need to interfere more than that. I didn’t want to play games.

I am all for competition with prospective spouses, and let the woman pick the best person, but at the end of the day she will go with who she decides to go with and so will every man. I know it hurts to lose out to someone else but if they are already taken and are solid in that, then I think you need to let it go. You are better off investing your time in a relationship with more potential and not stressing over someone who is more interested in someone else. If they are already taken even though you love them very much, the right thing to do is to encourage them in that relationship, especially if there isn’t anything wrong with the person that they are dating. If something breaks down in that relationship, then your support would certainly put you in good position for them, rather than trying to meddle in their relationship.

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