I want to be loved by more than my family-Why do I feel like nobody loves me when there are clearly people who love me, like my family? Can you relate to this? Please subscribe to Love Beyond The Sea for relationship questions and answers and leave a comment. Most of us want a relationship so I think people should be able to relate to these questions. Get notifications for upcoming videos about finding and experiencing marital love as I did with my wife in the Philippines, five years ago.
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There is nothing wrong with family love, of course, it’s quite essential I think, to wellbeing. That’s where you hope to find acceptance, physical and emotional needs met and have fun, and have people that will support you. Being loved by family members is very healthy and good for society. Without it, a child will likely grow up to be a delinquent.
I can relate to this question. My mother and sister were often sounding boards for my frustration with being single and kept me from jumping off the ledge. I knew they loved me, but it just seemed like there was something even better, and just as natural that was missing, and that was a wife. God gave the first man he created a wife within 24 hours on day six of creation, according to the Bible, which I believe is the only place to get truth and wisdom. God established marriage as the norm right from the beginning. Genesis 2:24-Therefore shall a man leave his father and his mother, and shall cleave unto his wife: and they shall be one flesh.
Ideally this would happen as soon as possible to enjoy the benefits of marriage and to avoid the temptations that go with being unmarried. Living with family is great, but being married to someone I believe is even better.
“I want to be loved by more than my family” is not talking about eros or erotic love since that only is for marriage, but I think the sentiment is talking about the desire to experience the give and take love relationship between a man and a woman, just each other, and have it day after day. There is something about having that one special person in your life. Of course, I am assuming here that the relationship is a good one.
Your family won’t always be there for you, but you expect your spouse to. It is there that you also find acceptance, physical and emotional needs are met, you have fun and support each other. There is intimacy and the possibility of children which should bond the couple together even more. These children should be taught to get married. I know that doesn’t seem to be in vogue anymore, but I will beat a different drum.
My answer to this question is that we are simply wired for the companionship of marriage. We do have legitimate needs that are to be met there. If you have a good marriage you might not care if anyone else likes you, because you and your mate have each other and are invested in each other’s lives.
There are men that seem to think that having sex with a bunch of different women is the greatest life there is, but that’s ridiculous because a man and woman are to complete and complement each other, not leave behind a slew of hurts and disappointments. The good stuff only happens in a committed relationship, and by committed, I mean married. Some guys think it’s boring being tied down to one woman for a long time, let alone a lifetime, but that’s what God teaches we should be doing.
It is not boring or uninteresting to get to know your spouse really well. I married my wife from nearly 10,000 miles away in less than eight weeks. I flew to the Philippines to meet her for the first time and returned a married man four weeks later. I love being married. I love being with my wife. I love that we have had to continue to get to know each other in marriage and our relationship continues to get stronger. It is never boring. We have plans for our future together. It never gets old and why should it?
Don’t feel guilty if you are longing for marriage, and don’t let anyone try to talk you out of thinking highly of marriage. Someone could say that the love of a family is safer than being married since your family isn’t going to divorce you, but do you want to play it safe or be united with someone to mutually care for each other for the rest of your lives?
Leave a comment if you will, about wanting to be loved by more than your family. Oh, sometimes people try to find that love and end up looking in the wrong places and end up with the wrong people, being desperate for love from another person. Be very careful to look for someone with character that you can trust. Your heart might get broken a few times in your search, and even in a good marriage there will be times you’ll be at odds with each other but that is nothing that can’t be overcome.
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