My Filipina Love Does it Good

Today I want to be very honest about one of the many ways my wife from the Philippines makes my life so much better. I needed someone when I started pursuing a woman to marry. As it turned out, my little woman is someone who is fulfilling God’s will for her life in part by being my wife, and, I am doing likewise for her. Try to see how many controversial things are said here and leave a comment and don’t forget to get notifications for upcoming videos. I don’t try to say things that are unpopular; it’s just that I see things differently than many.

Wikipedia tells me that Paul McCartney and Wings 1973 song "My Love (does it good)" was given an unfavorable reception by many music critics, some of whom considered it overly sentimental and lyrically inconsequential. I think some people think the same about Love Beyond The Sea.

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In 2015 I went where I was wanted (the Philippines) and ended a long relationship drought I thought might never end by marrying a woman I had only known for 54 days. I travelled 9800 miles for that to happen. What did I know that many people seem to not know about the value of marriage? Subscribe to Love Beyond The Sea for an in-depth look at being married that I think works regardless of what woman you marry.

I knew that a wife is to be a helper to her husband as Genesis 2:18 says  Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for^[ him.” This means someone corresponding to; like yet unlike. This was a woman fashioned or designed for and made for a man. If you look carefully, you will see that this would preclude a same-sex union because that would not be “unlike” or “corresponding” to. You may be familiar with that Bible verse but didn’t inspect it too much.

From gotquestions.org-Two Hebrew terms in this verse provide important information to better understand the creation of Eve as the first woman. The word translated “helper” is the Hebrew term ‘ezer. This word is even used of God, sometimes, noting that He is our Helper (Psalm 115:9-11). We would certainly not view God, as a Helper, as subservient to humans, nor should we understand the role of “helper” in Genesis 2:18 as a position of subservience. The concept of an “ideal partner” seems to convey the thought best.

The second important Hebrew word in this verse, translated “fit” is kenegdow. It literally means “according to the opposite of him.” In other words, the focus is on an appropriate match. Eve was not created above or below Adam; she was complementary. The animals Adam had named each had an appropriate companion (Genesis 2:20), and Adam was given a fitting companion as well. Eve was “just right” for him. So where does feminism and women’s liberation fit into this? It doesn’t.

Further, God’s statement that it was not good for man to be alone implies that Adam was lonely and incomplete by himself. He had been created for relationship, and it is impossible to have relationship alone. With the creation of Eve, Adam experienced the joy of love for another person.

The Bible is unique in its depiction of women’s valued status as a complementary companion. No other ancient text from the Middle East offers commentary on the creation of women. It is in the Bible that we learn of the important role women have had since the beginning of human existence. Both man and woman were made in God’s image, according to Genesis 1:27, “So God created man in his own image, in the image of God he created him; male and female he created them.” Did you notice? Only two genders. Nothing has changed. You’re welcome.

I think the article excerpt is correct but doesn’t emphasize the fact of being “opposite”. What’s the opposite of a man? Very good. I have an entire video series called Cringeworthy Things Said to Single Christian Men that covers the futile attempt by some to almost glamorize the single life or deemphasize the married life. I think that is mostly being misinformed or not wanting to tell the single person what they really need, which is not exactly speaking the truth in love, which I try to do here on Love Beyond The Sea and with podcasts on Casting Beyond The Sea you can find on lvbts.com.

As for helper or ideal partner, this amazing woman I married is the best person to calm me down when I am getting overheated about something. She has seen me at my worst and instead of scolding me, sometimes she just laughs! She knows me well enough to know there are times I need to unload; let it out, let loose and the way I do that is verbally. I need someone to vent to. I live with this woman and there are times that she sees me in a world of momentary hurt.

She might also hug me and remind me that it isn’t worth it to explode. She doesn’t try to minimize my pain or criticize me for it. She might not fully understand the details but she sees a husband breathing fire and can calm me down in the exact way I need it. She is my Wonder Woman. She lifts me up when I am down. Where would I be without her?

As for companionship, wow that says a lot. She is my best friend (eventually I will tape that video topic), my traveling partner, the woman I pray for and am building my future with, for as long as God plans that to be. I absolutely love watching a mystery or a love story with her, going to a theatre play, dreaming of trips to the Philippines back where she changed my life in a moment. And the very best-snuggling this sore body against her amazing soft, smooth and warm body at night in the dark, talking about…anything. There is nothing better.

Before some of you say “You’re just a big siiiiimp!” No, we both recognize our sin weaknesses after six years of marriage, but make up quickly and get back in harmony. This is NOT a channel to try to tell you marriage is a rose garden, but it just happens to be better than any other life for all but a few people, relatively speaking.

A man also is designed to lead and in a very important way, I am to lead her in this life. I am to protect her and I am to provide for her. It is gratifying to help her in this way, as I am made to do, and be good to the woman who is my ideal partner. That doesn’t mean she is the only woman in the world that could be my wife but she was the one I chose to pursue and I think most men should be pursuing a woman to marry. Have you kept track of controversial things I’ve said?

By being a husband to her, she allows me to fulfill my role as a man by marrying her. My purpose in life wouldn’t be realized without making a commitment to her, even though it was done in less than eight weeks. This is the channel for making marriage great again so there won’t be any incel support here. I know what that’s like and so do many of you-for too long. You need a helper.

Being my ideal partner doesn’t mean that she is perfect. What it means is as a woman, she has the capabilities to be just what this man needs. I am concerned that too many women today have been raised or not raised to understand that there is a man who needs them (could be many of them) and she ought to let one of them marry her for his good! If he is the kind of husband that God wants him to be, then that is going to result in the best life for her. Perfect life? No, just the best life, a life with a man who needs you and would like the opportunity to take care of you. I know it can seem hopeless to find a suitable wife as I read message boards and I have been around awhile.

Like the Eagles song ends “You better let somebody love you…before it’s too late.” My love does it good; she’s my love beyond the sea!