I am going to give you a link in the description box of 100 ways a wife can show her husband that she loves him. In this podcast I will talk about some of the ones that are important to me, and how you might suggest this need to your wife. My intent is for the foreign husband to be able to look through this, and highlight the things that he thinks his wife needs to know about him. I am only going to cover the ones that I need to express to my wife.
This is more challenging for some men than others, but I want to make it easy for you. It may have been written for women to use, but I am going to turn it around so that the man makes the first move here. I think it is important that he be able to openly talk to his wife about what he needs her to do to show him love.
Here is the complete list-
SUGGESTIONS on How to Show Love to Your Husband:
- Respectfully communicate with him.
- Let him know he’s important to you.
- Purposefully try to understand his feelings—even when you disagree with him.
- Show interest in his friends giving him some time with them if they’re trust-worthy.
- Let go of the small stuff. We all have annoying habits and preferences that are different from our spouse’s. (Dave Ramsey)
- Tell him you both love him AND like him.
- Either show interest in his hobbies or allow him space to participate freely. (D Ramsey)
- Protect his dignity on a daily basis.
- When confronting him, realize he has feelings also.
- Foster an atmosphere of laughter in your home. Look for ways to laugh together.
- Try not to make sudden major changes without discussion, giving time to adjust.
- When you go out on a date together don’t bring up problems. Have FUN!
- Focus on what he’s doing right, instead of mainly focusing on the negatives.
- Show interest in what he feels is important in life.
- Give him special time with you apart from the children.
- Try to make the first few minutes he comes home from work a positive experience. Ease into the negative.
- Give him time to unwind after he gets home from work. Your evenings will be more enjoyable. (Dave Ramsey)
- Don’t allow family members to treat him disrespectfully. Defend him to anyone that dishonors his place as your husband.
- Look for things you can complement about your husband. Let him know your appreciation often.
More Ways to Show Love:
- Be creative when you express your love, both in words and in actions.
- Talk with him about having specific family goals to achieve together to feel closer as a marital team.
- Don’t over commit yourself. Leave time for him.
- Extend God’s grace to him and be forgiving when he offends you.
- Find ways to show him you need him.
- Give him time to be alone. (This energizes him to reconnect at other times.)
- Admit your mistakes; don’t be afraid to be humble. Peel away your pride.
- Defend him to those who disrespectfully talk abouthim. Love protects (1 Cor. 13:7).
- Respect his desire to do well—not his performance.
- Rub his feet or neck, or scratch his back after a hard day.
- Take time for the two of you to sit and talk (schedule it when necessary).
- Initiate going out on romantic outings.
- Email him when he’s at work, telling him how much you love him.
- Surprise him with a fun gift that he’d really enjoy.
- Express how much you appreciate him for working so hard to support the family.
- Tell him how proud you are of him for who he is.
- Talk in loving, not in nagging or belittling ways.
- Help your husband to be the Spiritual head at home (without “lording” it over him).
- Reserve some energy for him so you’re not so tired when he wants you sexually.
- Don’t expect him to do projects beyond his natural capabilities.
- Pray for him to enjoy God’s best in life.
Remember, all of these “ways to love” are only suggestions:
- Take special notice of what he does for you and the family.
- Brag about him to other people in front of him andwhen he’s not there.
- Keep conversations brief when he’s tired—so he isn’t “flooded” by too many words.
- Tell him 3 things you specifically appreciate about him.
- Honor him in front of the children (differ in private when necessary).
46. “Look into your husband’s eyes when he talks to you. This makes him feel that you’re interested.” (J. Clain)
- Get up with him, and pray with him to start your day together.
- Be his “help-mate” in whatever ways you sense he needs it.
- Participate in shoulder-to-shoulder activities with him without talking. Sometimes men just like to BE with you and not talk.
- Be a student of his ways so you show your love in ways he best comprehends it.
- When your husband is in a bad mood give him time and space to recover.
- Help him to finish his goals, hobbies, or education.
- Treat him as if God has stamped on his forehead: “Handle With Care.”
- Work to get rid of habits that annoy him.
- Be kind and thoughtful to his relatives. Don’t make him choose between you.
- Don’t compare his relatives with yours in a negative way.
- Thank him for things he’s done around the house. (It means a lot to men).
- Don’t expect credit for all you do for him. Do it as “unto the Lord.”
- Make sure he agrees with everything important that you’re planning to do.
- Do little things for him—let him sleep in, bring him coffee, etc.
- Don’t belittle his intelligence or be cynical in your words with him.
Want more suggestions? Read on…
- Initiate sex periodically. And respond more often.
- Sometimes let him enjoy his day off work without having to “work” at home.
- Get to the point in your discussions. Spare him details unless he wants them.
- Discover his sexual needs.
- Surprise him with a 15 second kiss when he gets home from work.
- Wink at him from across the room when you’re out at a group function.
- Give him the benefit of the doubt when he mis-speaks.
- Don’t quarrel over words.
- Be kind and courteous with him. (Don’t be kinder to strangers than to him.)
More Suggestions to Consider:
- When things go wrong, instead of assessing blame, focus on how to do better.
- As a kindness, don’t say, “I told you so.”
- Try not to argue over money. Peacefully discuss future expenditures instead.
- Take him out on dates—pre-planning all of the details ahead of time.
- Hold his hand and snuggle up close to him at times both at home and in public.
- Praise his good decisions; minimize the bad ones.
- Tell him you love him more often.
- Put love notes in his pockets and brief case.
- Sit with him while he’s watching TV—even if the program doesn’t interest you.
Here are the Last 20 SUGGESTIONS… Keep Gleaning:
- Don’t expect him to read your mind (despite your thinking he should— extend grace).
- Periodically, give him time with his family alone.
- Check with him before you throw away his papers and stuff, when possible.
83. Put effort in to keep yourself in good shape so he’s especially proud to be with you.
- Let him express himself freely, without fear of being called stupid or illogical.
- Carefully choose your words. Remember to “speak the truth in LOVE.”
- Don’t criticize him in front of others—keeping his dignity intact.
- Visit his childhood home with him.
- When you’re angry, express it in respectful ways. Don’t give the silent treatment.
- Pray for him.
- Make him homemade soup when he’s sick.
- Look your best—dress to honor and make him proud to be seen with you when you’re out together.
- Support him when someone tries to put him down. Be his best cheer leader.
- Don’t disagree with him in front of the children.
- Take him for a weekend get-away without the children.
- Cheer his successes whether in it’s related to business or other areas of everyday living.
- Graciously teach him how to demonstrate his love for you.
- Give him coupons to redeem—maybe for a back scratch or a shoulder rub.
- Buy him a gift certificate to his favorite lunch spot and put it in his wallet.
- Hide notes for him around the house where only he will find them.
- Thank him for just being himself.
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