Casting Beyond The Sea Podcast

Podcast Episode 157: The Problem with the Idea of a Soulmate

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This is part 2 of a look at the idea of a soulmate. Is there such a thing?  I have been married for over six years to a woman I married overseas on the first trip there, getting married in less than eight weeks. Do I believe she is my soulmate?

Fewer people are looking to marry these days, and I don’t think it helps matters to have the idea that each of us has a soulmate, that one person that we are meant to marry. I know it may sound cute to hear that but it is a bad notion in my opinion. In part one I started to explain why I think that way and to keep that upload from being too long, I am making part two today.

Does our soulmate complete us?-Me-The article brought up the issue of the soulmate idea causing reliance on the other spouse to make us complete. I wanted to interject here that I have a video called “Are you incomplete without a wife?” I do believe that most people are incomplete without a spouse and I will explain in that video. Basically, I believe God created virtually all people with a need for a spouse.  I have another video called “Is there only one Filipina that can be “the one”?”  Mark 10:7-9 declares, “A man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh. So they are no longer two, but one. Therefore what God has joined together, let man not separate.

Me-Here is a very interesting take on the idea of soulmate; a different perspective. This isn’t going to be easy for many to hear, but I want you to listen anyway as I read it. From you are married, the person you are married to is your soul mate.  A husband and wife are “united,” “one flesh,” “no longer two, but one,” and “joined together,” i.e., soul mates.

A marriage may not be as unified and joyous as a couple wishes it to be. A husband and wife may not have the physical, emotional, and spiritual unity that they desire. But even in this instance, the husband and wife are still soul mates. A couple in such a situation needs to work on developing true “soul mate” intimacy. By obeying what the Bible teaches about marriage (Ephesians 5:22-33), a couple can develop the intimacy, love, and commitment that being “one flesh” soul mates entails. If you are married, you are married to your soul mate. No matter how disharmonious a marriage is, God can bring healing, forgiveness, restoration, and true marital love and harmony.

When you hear me say and when my wife hears me say, that together is my favorite place to be, that I don’t know what I’d do without her, that not having her in my life would result in a massive hole in my heart, that is not saying that I consider her my soulmate. Here’s what it does say-It says that I have made her a priority by marrying her and I am going to do everything I possible can for her good. When you hear me say something like that, that is not saying that is going to be easy and that there aren’t going to be some tough times ahead. Neither one of us knows what the future holds for us. One thing I do know is that I am to be committed to my baby. Both of us have shown our “true colors” and we are still committed to ironing out problems as they arise.

Listen to the podcast for more analysis of the idea of a soulmate.

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