Should Your Filipina be More Important than Your Family?

This video is about something I have observed on the internet. It’s not a surprise when a foreigner marries or is engaged to a younger woman from a region like southeast Asia, and some of his family members object. They have the usual misconceptions that all of these women are only looking for a payday, only looking to help their family financially.

Your siblings might assume their father or brother is brain dead and can’t think for himself. If the man’s parents are still alive, they can become intrusive too. This can become very frustrating and I have a solution. Please subscribe to Love Beyond The Sea for help for foreigners seeking a Filipina and I hope those married to one will find this channel helpful as well. Don’t forget to get notifications for upcoming videos and leave a comment. There are podcasts on Casting Beyond The Sea; subscribe on Podbean.

The foreigner has to do what’s best for him. If he thinks he has done his due diligence and wants to marry a younger Filipina for example, his family absolutely must respect that and back off of their criticism. They can disagree with his choice of girlfriend but when they become married, I think they should know their place of importance to him, and it should be that his Filipina wife or wherever she’s from, is number 1 and that’s not going to change. Well, this one sounds like it belongs in the Controversial Collection Playlist. Check that out for other relationship related videos you don’t see every day. I want you to leave comments.

My mother lives with my wife and I, and I am not rude about it, but she knows who I will support in our household. My wife is a good woman and blends in well but if she were to behave inappropriately, I would need to talk to my wife about it, naturally, but she still is number 1. I have told my wife that we need to support each other, at least publicly, whether we are right or wrong.

Here’s my view-His family either accepts that or not. Any attempt to cause friction between the westerner and his younger Filipina wife, could result in cutting that family member off from him. Any maligning of her name or character will result in the same. If someone is going to be disruptive, there is no reason to be around them. The wife comes first.

This is a hardline approach but you’ve already tried to reason with these relatives so there’s no point in continuing to do that. They need to make the choice to respect her and embrace her as part of the family, or they will effectively be cut off. Simple. I think there is a good chance they will buy in, they have to. I will put a link in the description box to an article where I gleaned this insight from. I totally agree with it. The author ranks the top five things he thinks married men would publicly rank in their life, then ranks the top five things they think they actually prioritize by their actions. From the article-

Here’s how I think many married guys would publicly rank their Life Things (I’m intentionally leaving Faith out of the conversation as it often proves to be an unproductive and distracting argument starter – though I think it’s fair to note that I’ve never heard of a divorce resulting from two people putting their God and faith first in their marriage):

Marital Family

Family of Origin

Job

Friends

Favorite Hobby or Lifestyle Activity

But here’s how I think many married guys actually prioritize their Life Things, according to their actions:

Favorite Hobby or Lifestyle Activity

Job

Friends

Family of Origin

Marital Family

Me-In the first list marital family, then family of origin is at the top, while in the second list, they are at the bottom. Of course, this isn’t the way it is for everyone, but the point was made that sometimes, what we say is important isn’t necessarily what our actions express. I think it is especially important to draw a clear line that is not to be overstepped when you have married a younger Filipina.

Other people will be sure to get in your family’s ear and she will hear enough stereotypes from people, so she absolutely needs the complete support of her husband.

I am not to allow anyone in my family to talk negatively about my wife, to talk about her flaws, talk bad about our relationship, talk bad about her country, speculate on her motives for marrying me, tell her what to do now that she is here. I mean, I am in charge of the will.

Let me know how you think, I’m sure many will be alarmed, at my one-sided stand, but now you know where I stand. but you have to choose someone to support, and the choice is simple, it will be my love beyond the sea.