My Journey
30 Years of Nothing to Many Years of Plenty
I had been alone for many years, ok, it was 30. Why? In one sense because it was so difficult finding someone to get a date with. The years went by quickly but it gets depressing when you see the years and decades speed by and you are still alone. By the time I was 53 I was about ready to give up because it just seemed impossible that anything was going to change. My pastor sent me an email about a man who found a wife in the Philippines and I thought this was something I needed to try.
I joined the website Christian Filipina and was overwhelmed with the large amount of women I could chat with or message or that were sending me winks. On this website, a wink really does mean she would like to chat, she is getting your attention. On day five of my paid membership I winked at my wife. This was her first day on the site. Within four days we had our first Skype, then we communicated about four hours a day on average to get to know what I thought I needed to know. I didn't need or want to know everything, I am not sure that is possible anyway. What I needed to know the most was if she was a Christian. I believed that she was and proposed on day 18.
I got my passport, immunizations, time of work, plane tickets, made an appointment at the US Embassy in Manila to get a certificate I needed, and headed off to the Philippines to meet this woman for the first time, and to marry her. I had never had a doubt this was the right thing to do. My attitude was I was going to give up my life for this woman as the Bible commands a husband, and put her needs above my own, and that's what I told her. We were married on May 10 of 2015 in Davao City, Philippines. I flew back on May 21 or 22 and began the spousal visa in earnest.
I used Christian Filipina's visa services and her interview was only six months after our priority date, which is when my petition was acknowledged that at had been received. Now, we have been married nearly four years. We are happily married! My Filipina is an amazing woman and everything I could want in a wife. The long wait was worth it. Since I married her, I have not had one thought about those frustrating years being single when I knew I needed to be married. Much of Love Beyond The Sea is to help foreigners to have a committed marriage to a Filipina. They are not to be taken advantage of. We do have a large age gap of 27 years but that is not a big deal to many Filipinas. I need to daily be the type of man she needs, which is to be understanding, protecting, provide for her and help her dreams come true. In essence, I am to sacrifice for her.
