Are you Comfortable with a Filipina contacting you First?by Bobpublished on
I believe the man should be the pursuer of the wife. He is the one with the drive to marry, women want to be married. In my own case, I winked at my wife on maybe March 17, 2015 and she quickly responded back somehow. We connected and agreed to chat later and that’s how it began. On our 18th day I proposed to her! All I had was a single photo to go by as her profile was so new. I was merely letting her know I found her attractive. When she indicated a willingness to talk, that was my chance to ask what I needed to ask in order to see if she would make me a good wife and if she thought I would make her a good husband.
Other women made the first move by sending me a chat request, sending a message to my inbox, or even a wink. How should I feel about that? Is it wrong for a woman to do this? Is this being too aggressive? Is she being out of place?
I personally don’t have any qualms about this because of two things:
I wanted all the options I could get.
These women were simply indicating they were available.
It was up to me to pursue them or not. I thought it was great to have options for the first time in my life, many of them. They were not proposing to me, that would be a turn off. I consider that my responsibility.
To me it would just feel weird if a woman took the initiative to approach me and indicated she was interested in dating me and possibly marriage. I might feel good about it, but it would feel awkward and strange.
I believe a woman should do everything she can to make herself available. She should be where she believes a good man can find her. She wouldn’t be pursuing; she would be wisely putting herself in the best position to be pursued by a man. She should take her appearance seriously, be polite and “put herself out there”. What matters is where she “puts herself out there”. She shouldn’t try to find love in all the wrong places.
It can be challenging and uncomfortable for a man to initiate contact with a woman when it is probably obvious that he finds her sexually attractive and wants to start a relationship with her. The Filipinas will line up to get your attention on a dating site with a wink, a message or a chat request, which I would consider contact, but it isn’t the same thing as asking the man if he wants to go out with her. She is simply going as far as she feels is appropriate before letting the man take it from there, or not.
If a Filipina contacts you first, she might end up being your Love Beyond The Sea!