I have quite a few videos about getting to know your Filipina, about communicating with her. Unless you have known each other a very long time, there are some things we don’t know about each other because we haven’t asked. Please subscribe to Love Beyond The Sea where I talk about what I’ve learned being married to a Filipina for over six years. I want to help men to be able to have a good relationship with a Filipina, hopefully leading to marriage. By bucket list I mean the top things she’d like to do in her lifetime.
Since I never had a bucket list myself, I don’t think about life in those terms. Nevertheless, as I get older, I can see most of my life in the rear-view mirror and my priorities have changed to keep up. Being married to a Filipina a lot younger than I am makes me want to help her do the things and accomplish the things she has wanted to do and might have thought she’d never have the chance to.
An early indication she had things she desired to do was when I asked her if there was anywhere in the world she’d like to visit and could, where would that be? She quickly replied “Paris”. She wasn’t expecting me to take her there and I wasn’t thinking about doing it, but after a couple of weeks I thought maybe that would be a good idea. I am very glad I did because it was such a good experience. I learned a lot about history, saw amazing paintings and sculptures and saw many castles. We went to the Eiffel Tower about four times and saw the Mona Lisa. I don’t know about her but I want to do it again!
I hope she wants to visit many of the islands in the Philippines like I do, but I am more concerned about her bucket list. She says she likes to travel but you can only do so much of that when one or both of you are working. At 53, seemingly the only thing on my bucket list was to get married. My first choice would have been a Filipina. She has made me a very content and satisfied man. I love just being with her every day; together is my favorite place to be.
If you were to ask your Filipina what she would like to accomplish or experience before she dies, you might be surprised by what she says. You might even be able to work on it together which would strengthen your marriage. It might be retiring in the Philippines, it could be a lot of different things, each woman has grown up with different experiences and have different interests. Now that my wife is a U.S. citizen, she has the option to live in both countries.
My wife is still young so she won’t be thinking about the things she would like to die, but I want her to think big, like we did with Paris. I’d go pretty much anywhere in the world with her if it was important for her to see it. They say life is short, and it is. Elementary school doesn’t seem that long ago to me, but now I am 59 already. We should try to enjoy the various things God has made for mankind to enjoy. I fully understand this world has so many problems, enough of them to make you want to live somewhere else eternally, and that would be heaven.
I think for my wife, she is focused on things for the near future more than the long term. So, I could help her any way I can with her schooling, we can hit the road for a mini-vacation. I try to understand why she wants to do things and I want to help her experience more than just go to work. I think by now I have done the things that are most important to me, and if there was something I wanted to do, I would simply want to share it with my wife who I didn’t want to live without when I married her six years ago.
My bucket list is my wife’s bucket list so I better find out from my love beyond the sea.