Podcast Episode 171: Lower Your Voice Talk Slower With Your Filipina

I wanted to make a video about one tip that would very much help you to get along with a Filipina if you are interested in pursuing one.  Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea where I am giving advice from my experience being married to a Filipina, to help foreign men thinking about doing the same. Not doing this would be a big turn off to any woman, especially a Filipina, and that is speaking too loudly and too fast.  I will link a playlist called Communication in the description box, but today’s emphasis is on manner of speech.

They say it isn’t what you say but how you say it. I keep hearing about how American men are loud, confrontational and talk too fast, that we have bad tempers.  I have to watch my temper and the way I talk to my Filipina wife.  She is coming from a society or culture where being argumentative is not approved of, especially in public, and I think many of us guys will need to be careful about not bludgeoning our spouse with our opinion or side of the story, if we feel strongly that we are in the right.

When we are in that mode, often the tone of our voice can result in friction with a Filipina, take my word for it. Obviously, not yelling at your Filipina is a good thing, but raising your voice just short of shouting is still going to result in tampo.  For me, I naturally conclude that the louder I talk, the more my point will get made, and while that might even be true, the manner I make my point could cause a rift between us. I won’t even get into facial expressions as I have heard since I was small that I get a look that could kill when I am upset. Even my wife has told me that. No, I am not going to demonstrate that for you. I think that is because I am very emotional, but I can’t use that to justify or excuse how I speak.

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