Many Filipinas are eager to marry-I’m not sure all western men realize just how eager some Filipinas are to get married. They don’t want to take years to accomplish this. In our case, it took less than eight weeks for us to get married, starting the spousal visa petition with what information we could, before even meeting in person. Talk about your past-I think she will be drawn to a man who is able to be honest about his past, and that includes, eventually, some things he’s not proud of.
Don’t be reluctant to talk about your past even if you think it was nothing special. Just be real, be honest. If you have had problems with some area of your life, just bringing it up in the right context can help her see that you realize you are not perfect and have been learning from your past mistakes and want to be better. Another way a western man can let a Filipina know he is serious about her is to Talk about your feelings-I think a Filipina would like for the person she is married to, to be able to share his feelings with her. Often this doesn’t come easy for guys, but when she realizes you are willing and able to open up to her about what makes you tick, about what’s going on inside, I believe she will like that she is starting to know you better and can relate to you more. I also think this helps to build her trust. Talk about a future with her-It is one thing to talk about our past and our feelings, our accomplishments, what we like to do, what’s going on at the moment and learn about the Filipina, but beginning to chat with her about a future together is a big deal. This stage comes after you get to know her a bit.
Visit her as soon as possible-It took me only 18 days to get serious enough about her to ask her to marry me, and she knew I was dead serious and could probably see it coming. I would suggest as soon as you get the notion that a certain Filipina could be someone you could marry, let her know you want to see her in person. If she wants to see you, then tell her you are going to start looking for flights as soon as possible.
Treat her special-If you give her your time and attention until it is evident you need to move on, you are going to find out faster that way. Be on time for webcams-Of the five or so Filipinas I communicated with, only my wife was always on time for my calls. It did annoy me when the others didn’t respond for five minutes, or half an hour. Look nice-I can tell you from being married to a Filipina for over four years, she does care about your appearance, she wants her man to look presentable, she considers it a reflection of her. Quality and quantity time-I think it has to be both.
Quality time means getting to know her. Again, please watch my videos on questions to ask, it should help with comfort level. Quality time means not dominating the conversation, it means taking notes and remembering things she says in order to build on them in later conversations. If the man she is chatting with is repeatedly asking her the same questions she has already answered a few times, she is going to think that what she is telling him isn’t important enough to write down or just remember. Look nice-I can tell you from being married to a Filipina for over four years, she does care about your appearance, she wants her man to look presentable, she considers it a reflection of her. Early on you are just talking, however, wearing a decent looking shirt, having your hair combed and not having what’s in the background look like a disaster will show her that the whole experience of chatting with her is important to you.
Quality and quantity time-I think it has to be both. Quality time means getting to know her. Again, please watch my videos on questions to ask, it should help with comfort level. Quality time means not dominating the conversation, it means taking notes and remembering things she says in order to build on them in later conversations.
Initiate conversation-I have mixed feelings about this because it’s easier for some guys to talk than for others. The main thing here is for the Filipina to not be the one who is always beginning the conversations.