As you know by now, I am a big proponent of finding a Filipina to marry. I don’t deny that there has been a lot of heartache for men who have been scammed by unscrupulous Filipinas. Any time a man is going to marry someone from another culture and if they have a large age gap, some concessions will need to be made, that’s what I want to talk about today.
Please subscribe to Casting Beyond The Sea for help for foreigners wanting practical information about having a good relationship with a woman from the Philippines. Here is the definition of concession-
The action of conceding, granting, or yielding something.
Considering the Filipina will not know anyone but you in her new country, won’t know where anything is, might not be familiar with the currency, not be able to drive or have a job yet, that will require extra time on the foreign husband’s part and I would like to think he would accept that responsibility as a way to show his Filipina bride that from now on, he is going to work to make her happiness and wellbeing a priority of his.
There is no place for selfishness in a marriage, and especially early on, concession will need to be made-The action of conceding, granting or yielding something.
To make this even more clear, I want to clarify by adding the word deference as the reason why concessions are made, the motivation for it. Here is how deference is defined-
respectful submission or yielding to the judgment, opinion, will, etc., of another.
respectful or courteous regard: in deference to his wishes.
There you go. Respectful yielding to the preferences of another out of courteous regard. I am not a supporter of a so-called 50/50 arrangement. I prefer I give 100 percent and leave my wife’s response up to her. If I treat her this way, I won’t have to be concerned what percentage she gives me. We’ve been married since May of 2015 and barely knew each other, and hadn’t met in person before we got married. Since I am satisfied with her as a wife and she is happy with me as a husband, this formula is working. I understand that I need to initiate conceding and deferring to her in order to show her I am going to do all I can to make this work.
I much prefer this to the idea of “you scratch my back and I’ll scratch yours”, you do this for me, I will do this for you”, or “we’ll do it my way this time, and next time your way”. That is compromising, but I am going beyond that. This would be my perspective regardless of who I married, but since I married a woman from the Philippines, executing that will look different. So, what kind of concessions are in order? Listen to the podcast for 8 concessions needed after marrying a Filipina.
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