Down to Earth Ways to Have a Heavenly Marriage to a Filipina: Part 1

Of course, someone will need to watch it and apply it, and if they do, they will become the type of husband every woman wants and will want to stay with.

I have a lot of others for men interested in a Filipina. I think there are a decent number of Filipinas watching these and I want you to know you make a great catch for a man.

Love is not an abstract concept. How could you love someone if the idea of love was vague? I will show you from the One who “IS Love” how to love your wife, or at least give you some examples of ways I love my wife and I am sure you can find a lot more ways than the ones I can think of at this time.

Matthew 20:28(ESV) 28 even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”

Would my Filipina say that I am serving her? How can I give of myself to make her life better? What are her needs? What are small ways I can show her I will serve her?

Philippians 2:5-7(ESV) 5 Have this mind among yourselves, which is yours in Christ Jesus,[a] 6 who, though he was in the form of God, did not count equality with God a thing to be grasped, 7 but emptied himself, by taking the form of a servant,[b] being born in the likeness of men. Christ is our head, we are to be submissive to Him, yet He had the mindset that our needs were worth sacrificing for. Can she see that I am being unselfish and putting her above my self?

Ex: I often tell my wife she is more important to me than I am to myself. I tell her that just because I am financially better off than she was that it is my pleasure to help her, as well as my responsibility. I have refrained from expressing to her anything that could make her feel inferior about being from a third world country. In fact, I wanted someone who was poor.

Ex: I paid for driving lessons for her. I started thinking about her-long term future.

Ex: I began looking for a job for her when I returned from our wedding. She started as a temporary where I work, did this for thirteen months, then got hired on permanently. Again thinking of her long-term future.

Ex: I think she needs to know how to manage money here in America, so she has her own checking account and credit card. She looks for money back-credit cards and has made those changes for us. She got us a fuel saver card for HyVee. She has automatic deposit for work and for her investments (one invests in the Philippines and one even in Facebook!). She puts money in her 401-K.

Ex: It would cost 4,400 dollars for a dental bridge for her. I have told her we must do this and it is important because down the line she will hurt if she doesn’t get this done.

Ex: I try to emphasize her choice in where we go on vacation. This year it looks to be coming down to Minnesota or South Dakota. She first mentioned Minnesota and it looks like we’ll have to choose one so Minnesota it is. Last year for our second anniversary we went to Paris.

Ex: It could be tempting to try to control her. She wanted to find a way to reduce our phone bill so she picked a carrier that I wouldn’t have gone with myself, but serving her involves allowing her to make decisions on her own. I even paid off her current phone since it had sentimental value to her, and paid for her new phone. This was just to show her that I cared. There was nothing in it for me.

Ex: There are times we are lying in bed relaxing at night and she wants asks me to make something for her to eat. I usually have settled in and don’t feel like moving but I do it for her, telling myself as I walk upstairs to the kitchen that “this is important to her”, “this shows her I care”, “I need to be unselfish”.

Ex: When I see the rice cooker is empty, I know she will want some more cooked so I do that for her. Ex: It can be as simple as suggesting you both go out to her favorite restaurant to eat if she “needs a break”.

Ex: It can be as simple as watching something on TV she likes.

Ex; It can be as simple as doing something with her that you ordinarily would have no interest in. My wife wanted to go to a play, a broadway type production, and I did and actually liked it. I hope you can see that these are the types of things you can do too, you just need to apply the principles of serving and giving, to have this mindset, and absolutely know you are loving your wife. This is the type of man that a woman isn’t likely to leave. Why would she?

If you are a Christian, you can give up your life to the highest degree because life here is like a vapor that appears for a little while then vanishes, but you are promised everlasting life, where it really gets good! In reality, you wouldn’t be missing out on anything to die for your wife.

I hope you can find your Love Beyond The Sea!